As part of their new year’s resolutions, many men promise they will find ways to have even better sex than they had in the previous year (or years). To which one can only say, “Hear, hear!” Desiring better sex and being willing to take steps to attain it is a laudable goal (and one that pays off in even better penis health, as a bonus). So while drawing up the roadmap to better sex, a man might want to look into an area that is too often ignored: afterplay.
As the name suggests, afterplay is the opposite of foreplay. Whereas foreplay involves a range of activities prior to penetration (or whatever marker one uses to officially demarcate the beginning of a sexual experience), afterplay is concerned with the intimacies that occur after the sexual experience has reached its peak.
It’s a stereotype that men and women behave differently “post-sex,” but as with all stereotypes there is some truth in it. The “traditional” view is that when men roll out of their sex experience, they’re interested in sleeping or moving on to something else. Women, for their part, are presumed to want to cuddle or continue to behave in an intimate manner.
Clearly, there are many men who are happy to snuggle up with their partner after climaxing and to continue to stroke their hair and engage in kissing and talking. And there are some women who are ready to say onward and upward as soon as the sexual mood is over. But many people do fall into the traditional roles.
Make an effort
A man who tends to want to drift off to sleep or see if he can catch the last ten minutes of the football game after intimacy is advised to concentrate instead on making the most of afterplay. There are several reasons for this:
– It shows respect. Women tend to need a little more time to “come down” after a sexual experience. By engaging in some tender afterplay, a man demonstrates that he respects his partner’s needs and is happy to fulfill them. This makes the partner feel more accepted and also makes them look forward to sex even more in the future – and the attitude with which they approach coupling can lead to better sex for both.
– It promotes sharing. The physical aspects of sex are fantastic, but the overall experience is made even better when there is a deeper sharing between two people. Sharing thoughts and feelings after sex, or even just being together in a bonded way, deepens the relationship which in turn makes sex even better in the future.
– It may lead to a second round. Although the goal of afterplay is simply to enjoy each other’s presence, often afterplay “revs things up” so that a second course of intimate action occurs.
Exactly what constitutes afterplay will vary from couple to couple. For some, simply being next to each other and sharing sweet words may constitute afterplay. For others, stroking, caressing, hugging or kissing may be involved. There are no hard and fast rules.
Regular afterplay tends to lead to better sex for most couples – and that sex is made even better if the man’s penis is in tip-top shape. Maintaining penis health is made easier by the consistent use of a superior penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin). For best results, locate a crème that contains both acetyl L carnitine and alpha lipoic acid. The former is an amino acid that helps prevent peripheral nerve damage from rough or frequent sex, which can lead to a loss of sensation in the penis. The latter is a potent antioxidant that battles the free radicals that can lead to oxidative stress and penile tissue damage. The two ingredients behave synergistically, so if one crème contains both, it improves the impact of each – leading to even better penis health.